The pieces of this that become truly discouraging are when benefit is given to someone with whom there is already reputable expressions of straight and true. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying he/she does not possess the moral abilities to function in the given society as an upright individual; I merely mean that what is presented to you is a total fabrication of intentions meant for me. Things can become difficult, because without trying to complicate things, the innocent parties now have a front row seat to the aftermath of your attempt to sanctify your crisis. There is no need for the rest of us to suffer from your madness.
You have every right to figure out what to do next in your life. You may have been handed the short end of the stick, but just once, try to remember what it felt like when you were on the losing end. As you crawl back into a comfort zone - one you've made up for yourself - you don't need to infect others with your maliciousness.
No matter the connection. No matter the distance. The ties of two are made with a mere introduction, be it a passing glance, a sleepless night or years of residence inside heart, mind and soul. You cannot undo this introduction but if a day comes where it's time to cut ties, do it well. Graciously bow out.